Application for Service

There is a new application process that is officially now implemented.   I am searching for subs, slaves, and play partners....  with the possibility to have an inner circle of one or two very close and intimate personal slaves.

If you'd like to apply please follow the process and send to MistressAmandaCrystine@gmail.com

Application Process for being a sub/slave to

Goddess Manda

Step One

Fill out this basic form and submit a photo of your face, non-blurry, no wearing sunglasses, up close. I need to see your face. No excuses.

• Name
• Email address
• Age
• Location
• Sex (male, female, transgender, transsexual, transvestite)
• Marital status (single, in a relationship, divorced, married, separated, married-cheating)
• BDSM orientation (slave, sex-slave, sub, switch, Dom, Domme, sadist, masochist)
• Sexual orientation (heterosexual, bisexual, lesbian, gay, pansexual, heteroflexible)
• Height, weight
• Smoker/non-smoker
• Highest level of education
• Religion

Stop

You may not go beyond this step until I have reviewed and given you permission to proceed.

Step Two

Fill out this portion of the application and submit it along with a photo of you holding a hand written sign that says "Only dead fish go with the flow." on it.

·        What is your employment: 

·        How relocatable are you?

·        Do you smoke?

·        Do you take any drugs?

·        Do you have any diagnosed health problems, mental health problems, neurological conditions or addictions?

·        Are you currently on ANY prescribed medications:

·        Have you ever and /or are you currently taking ANY medication for Depression, BI polar, Schizophrenia, Psychosis, Anxiety disorders or neurosis ?

·        Are you expecting this relationship to lead to really wild sex?

·        Are you expecting this relationship to lead to fulfilling your fetish fantasies? 

·        What are you current "vanilla" obligations? (financial, emotional, romantic familial, clubs, etc.)

·        What are your known "vanilla" limits?

·        Have you ever and/or currently receiving any type of psychological counseling for Depression, BI polar, Schizophrenia, Psychosis, Anxiety disorders or neurosis?

·        List any illegal drugs you have EVER taken in your lifetime.

·        List any illegal drugs you are still taking or wish to take in the future.

·        Do you think you might need to have pyschological counseling?

·        What are your known limits for fetish play?

·        Are there any physical limits which affect your mobility, lifestyle or ability to serve? 

·        What are your known limits for being a slave?

Stop

You may not go beyond step two until I have reviewed and given you permission to proceed.

Step Three

Answer these questions as truthfully as possible, to the best of your ability:

Goddess, for you I would ... 

 Answer either:  yes,  yes but only because you want me to, or, absolutely no.

• lick, kiss, massage your perfect bare feet for hours, until my hands and tongue hurt

• take out the trash

• stay up late, typing your letters and stories

• be used as a foot stool for hours as you are reading or watching TV

• stand in front of you, holding a cushion so that you can rest your feet

• clean up dog shit from the floor

• let you put clamps on my nipples 

• serve as a toilet

• have sex with a man

• have sex with a woman

• read to you

• give you a foot massage until you have decided it’s enough

• stop eating and drinking things you cannot have

• let you flog my ass, shoulder blades, thighs, and chest

• let you whip my chest, shoulders and hips

• let you spank my ass

• let you choose the music we listen to

• let you drink from my bottle of soda

• let you dictate what I wear

• let you slap my face with your hands or feet

• worship your body with gentle caresses and attention

• let you torture my genitals

• let you torture my nipples

• let you wax my body

• let you use my body as your personal toybox

• star gaze and talk about life

• wear a garment or piece of jewelry that marks me as your property

• carry you around on my back

• wear chastity devices for as long as you wish

• do all the housework

• let you bite or scratch my body as you wish

• let you fuck my ass with strap ons

• live with other slaves

• give up sex, altogether

• share my body, sexually, with anyone I was ordered to

Stop.

You may not proceed until I have reviewed your answers and determined if there is any point in continuing. If you are given permission to continue you may.

Step Four

Answer these questions as truthfully as possible:

How good are you at… (answers are very good, passable, hopeless, or can be trained)

• cooking

• serving meals (waiter service)

• washing the dishes

• dusting the house

• shaving legs

• brushing women's hair

• washing the floors

• leg waxing

• applying makeup to women

• making the beds

• washing clothes

• ironing clothes

• driving the car

• doing the shopping

How would you feel about …  (answers are I crave it, I can live with it, or I will leave if you make me do it)

• cleaning your Mistress feet or vagina with your tongue when she is sweaty or slightly dirty?

• drinking your Mistress' golden nectar (piss, in other words)?

• signing a contract with no time limit?

• signing a contract for a limited time, with option for both parties to renew later?

• being trained to be a slave?

• serving a Mistress who was overweight?

• serving a Mistress who did not believe in Female Supremacy?

• serving a Mistress who believes she really is a Goddess?

• serving a Mistress who is overweight, who desires to use your labor and finances to make herself healthier?

• serving a Mistress that is model thin?

• serving a Mistress who serves a husband?

• serving a Mistress who never wears makeup and dresses casually?

• serving an extremely sadistic Mistress?

Are you ... (answer are yes, no, sort of )

• Single

• A person with previous slave experience?

• Interested in financial slavery?

• Filled with physical lust at the mere thought of being used as a slave?

• Interested in being a sex slave?

• Interested in being a domestic (house) slave?

• Interested in having a "normal" relationship (romantic) w/ BDSM overtones?

• Hoping to find a friend and a lover, as well as a Mistress, in one person?

• Capable of loving one person and serving another?

• Someone who believes in God?

Stop. 

You may not go beyond step four until I have looked over your answers and determined if we should continue. If you have been given permission to continue, you may. 

Step Five

Answer these questions as honestly as possible:

Why do you want to serve?

Why do you want to serve me specifically? 

Please tell me about your personality.  Are you outgoing or shy type? Do you generally think the
glass is half full or half empty? Please be descriptive this is the place to talk about yourself as a person.

Stop.

I will review all your answers and if you are considered to be a fairly likely candidate, then I will inform you and the proper trial and getting to know each other more intimately will begin. 

If I do decide to open myself up to you and allow you a trial for all intents and purposes, you will be considered to be a long distance slave, regardless of where you are located in comparison to me.  Even if you live nearby and/or we meet person-to-person, you are a long-distance slave, because I cannot ring a bell or whisper an order and have you immediately follow through. Therefore, all trials and testing will take place as if for a long distance relationship. Some of this testing will be in the manner by which you discern what is needed to perform the tasks, and, how you creatively accomplish them.  

Some tasks are on-going and some are one time things. You will work through them using common sense.   Communication is vital; if you are struggling or need clarification on anything I cannot help you if you do not communicate with me.  Don’t doom the trial from the beginning by trying to assume you know what I mean... if you don’t know simply ask.

The Giving Tree

   


 I’d like to discuss one of My favorite children’s stories with you today.  ‘The Giving Tree’ by Shel Silverstein.

    There are two camps with strong feelings about this book… either it’s loved and treasured or despised and banned.   The simple story written by Silverstein sparks some very heated debates.  If you’ve just listened to it being read it you understand why already.  The tale isn’t your normal happy ending children’s tale.  In fact Silverstein always ended his tales in a bit of uncertainty.  He himself said once about a child having a happy ending, “The child asks, ‘Why don’t I have this happiness thing you’re telling me about?’” 

    I have to agree.  Thinking about it most of My favorite books, stories, movies, etc all tend to have an ending that’s either left open for question or rather sad to most.  I find beauty in reality.  Life doesn’t end with two people riding away on white stallions holding hands as triumphant romantic music plays… life is long and brutal at times.  It’s not always this fairy tale with a happy ending…. We can always find joy in where we are in the moment in something but circumstances aren’t always ‘happy’.

    It’s not written as a useful exemplary tale like ‘’Hands Are Not for Hitting’’ Instead it’s a tale of what people can give and take from each other in a relationship, in a family, or in society as a whole.

    The story itself doesn’t praise the tree nor does it endorse the boy.  They each do the very particular things they do, and say the things they say.  Their relationship is put to us as emotionally realistic, as it is, instead of as it ought to be.

    When the tree suggests, to the grown man who wants a home and family, that he should climb her branches to play would suggest she knows little of the boy she loves.  When as he grows the boy becomes unkind in his actions toward the tree, more and more, his knowledge and understanding of her are shown to be even more limited than hers of him.  They are both flawed and those flaws dictate the path they take.

    I find it beautifully ironic that “Happy” is the last word of the story. The sadness one feels in reading this book so full of the word “happy” is complicated just like the emotion itself.  Each happy alters the happy that follows it.  Through each repetition of the word the language is made more complex until at the end it’s as inside-out and upside-down as the emotion itself.

    After all, what truly is happiness?  What really is love?  Can these emotions honestly be summed up in neat little packages with pretty little bows to pass down to the generation below us?  I don’t think so no.  Happiness and love are complex and deep.  They are too deep to wrap up on a kids story or to tell in a fairy tale.  

The Giving Tree is a disturbing story of unconditional love and a tender tale of the monsters we are.

Mistress Manda and slave bill's Contract.

AGREEMENT

Upon signing, this is a binding contract between the Dominant and the submissive.

1. TERMS

1.1. CONTRACT

1.1.1. This contract will be in effect for 3 months (90 days), unless other terms are agreed upon later.

1.1.2. This contract can be extended at any time, with consent from both parties.

1.1.3. Alterations can be made to this contract, in respect to the terms set forth in SUBSECTION 1.4 and SECTION 2.

1.1.4. The parties enter into this contract on the signed date, fully aware of its nature, and undertake to abide by its conditions, without exception.

1.2. SAFETY

1.2.1. The Dominant and submissive agree that anything discussed, or acted upon; in regards to this contract will be consensual.

1.2.2. The list of hard limits (SECTION 3) will be strictly adhered to, unless otherwise discussed.

1.2.3. If needed, the following Safewords should be used:

1.2.3.1.  YELLOW: This word is to be used when the submissive is close to his limit of endurance, but does not want to cease all activity. 

1.2.3.2. RED: This word is to be used when the submissive is beyond his level of endurance, and wants to stop everything immediately.

1.2.4. The submissive will not be punished, in any way, for using the Safeword.

1.3. AVAILABILITY

1.3.1. The submissive will make himself available for contact by the Dominant at all times he is not at work.

1.3.2. The submissive must ask permission to do anything that might infarct on the time of the Dominant.

1.3.3. The Dominant will respect the work, sleep hours, and important family obligations of the submissive.

1.3.4. The Dominant may release the submissive from Her service at any time. The submissive may request his release at any time, and the request will be granted at the discretion of the Dominant.

1.3.5. The terms of this contract are in effect whether at home or in public.

1.4. COMMUNICATION

1.4.1. When the submissive is talking to the Dominant, he must remember his role.

1.4.2. If the submissive needs to express his feelings in a way that is not within his role, or would like to discuss terms related to the contract, he will do so via email with the Dominant’s consent.

1.4.3. The submissive will write a journal entry each night reflecting on his relationship with the Dominant.  If the quality falls short of expectations, the Dominant will define the requirements of the journal entry more specifically.

1.4.4. The submissive will read and respond to all blog entries of the Dominant.

2. ROLES/RIGHTS

2.1. DOMINANT

2.0.0. ROLE: 

 The Dominant shall exert as much control as possible over the submissive with the intention of improving the life of the submissive through Total Power Exchange.

2.1.1. EXPECTATIONS

2.1.1.1. The Dominant is to provide the submissive with all necessary training and guidance to properly serve the Dominant. The reason behind training will be explained to the submissive unless the Dominant has reasons to not do so.

2.1.1.2. Unless previously discussed, no permanent marks will be left on the submissive during punishment, and there will be no injuries that require medical attention.

2.1.1.3. The Dominant will maintain Her own health and hygiene, in an acceptable manner as She sees fit.

2.1.1.4. The Dominant shall always hold Herself to a higher standard to be the example of growth She wishes to see in the submissive.

2.1.2. RIGHTS

2.1.2.1. The Dominant accepts the submissive as Her own, to control, dominate, train, discipline, and correct during the term stated in 1.1.

2.1.2.2. The Dominant has the right to use the submissive’s body at any time, in any matter She sees fit, sexually or otherwise.

2.1.2.3. The Dominant may discipline or correct the submissive at any time, to ensure that the submissive fully appreciates his role of subservience, and to discourage unacceptable conduct. The Dominant shall explain the reason for discipline and offer the submissive the opportunity to ask clarifying questions before the discipline/correction is administered

2.2. SUBMISSIVE

2.2.0. ROLE:  

The submissive shall submit his will, personal choices, and all associated freedoms to the Dominant with the understanding that She will use Her power to improve him as a submissive and as a person.  The submissive will recognize at all times that he is of lower priority than the Dominant’s immediately family.  He lives to serve.

2.2.0.1. RIGHTS:

 The submissive has a right to his own feelings, thoughts, and beliefs.  

2.2.1. EXPECTATIONS

2.2.1.1. The submissive will provide a safe environment for his Dominant to use him fully and without inhibition.

2.2.1.2. The submissive accepts the Dominant as his Mistress, with the understanding that he is now property of the Dominant. He will remember his role in regard to the Dominant at all times.

2.2.1.3. The submissive shall serve the Dominant in any way, and shall endeavor to please the Dominant at all times, to the best of his ability.

2.2.1.4. The submissive is to obey the Dominant in all things. Subject to the terms and limitations in this contract, the submissive shall offer the Dominant any pleasures She requires, and will accept Her training and guidance in whatever form it may take.

2.2.1.5. The submissive will conduct himself in a respectful and modest manner.

2.2.1.6. The submissive will not enter into any sexual relations with anyone other than the Dominant unless She so desires.

2.2.1.7. The submissive shall be held accountable for any wrongdoings when not in the presence of the Dominant.

2.2.1.8. The submissive must obtain permission from the Dominant to make purchases for any single item above $200.

2.2.1.9. The submissive will not touch the Dominant in a sexual manner without asking for permission.

2.2.2.0 The submissive will meditate for 10 minutes every day in the specific manner that pleases the Dominant.

2.2.2.1. The submissive is to be in bed at a time specified by the Dominant unless She a) leaves it up to the submissive, or b) exceptional circumstances mean it must be broken. If it must be broken it will not happen without the Dominants understanding first.

2.2.2.2. The submissive is not allowed to drink alcohol in excess of one drink per day, or use any substance, without first acquiring permission from the Dominant. When in the presence of the Dominant the submissive must first acquire permission before having any drink.

2.2.2.3. The submissive will eat food as determined by himself unless the Dominant instructs him otherwise.

2.2.2.4. The submissive will choose his own drinks unless the Dominant instructs him otherwise.

2.2.2.5. The submissive shall determine an appropriate amount of calories each day.  The Dominant may at any time switch the submissive to a restricted calorie diet not to fall below 1800 calories per day.

2.2.2.6. The submissive will greet the Dominant every morning and wish the Dominant goodnight every night.

2.2.2.7. Each day, the submissive will choose his clothing and get them approved by the Dominant. He will photo what he plans on wearing to get it approved. If the Dominant doesn’t reply within 20 minutes it’s to be assumed approved.

2.2.2.8. The submissive will drive to the Dominant’s hometown and rent a hotel for two days one weekend of every month.  This can only be foregone with permission from the Dominant.

2.2.2.9. All vacation days that are unplanned by January 30^th will be granted to the Dominant.  Should any of them need to be used for anything deemed an emergency or of critical importance, the Dominant must approve their usage.

2.2.3.0. The submissive is expected to have the hotel room prepared before the Dominants arrival to her specifications.

2.2.3.1. The submissive will make dinner for the Dominant and whomever else She desires at any time, and prepare the menu She desires

2.2.3.2. The submissive will keep his home presentable and ready for the Dominant as if She were living with him.

2.2.3.3. When the submissive is in the Dominant’s home area he shall clean Her household to Her specifications.

2.2.3.4. The submissive shall maintain his good health, shall seek medical attention when needed, and keep the Dominant informed of any health issues (mental or physical) that may arise.

2.2.3.5. The submissive shall not pleasure himself sexually, without asking permission from the Dominant. If the submissive does not receive a response from the Dominant within 10 minutes of a request, permission is assumed not granted. His cock, balls, ass, and nipples are her toys and he must not touch them sexually without direct permission.

2.2.3.6. The submissive shall serve any person the Dominant chooses as long as the limits per 4.2.1. are not breached.

2.2.3.7. The submissive shall have all his time accounted for each day and provide a detailed outline of his activities to the Dominant at Her request.

2.2.3.8. The submissive shall perform all masturbation, edging sessions, ruined orgasms, and otherwise on webcam for the Dominant and any company She chooses.  he is expected to show his face.  No video and/or pictures will be taken that will personally identify the submissive specifically.

2.2.3.9. The submissive will bathe once a day, and must obtain permission from the Dominant to bathe more than once a day.

2.2.4.0. The submissive will oblige to being used as an object by the Dominant.  This includes objectification (foot stool, etc.) and automatonization (massage slave that does not fatigue, tongue slave)

2.2.4.1. The submissive will not act or speak in a demeaning way to the Dominant, Her husband,or Her children. 

3. PUNISHMENT

3.1. The Dominant will make it clear to the submissive that he is about to be punished.  This will be followed by an explanation of the reason for punishment and the intended results of the punishment.  

3.2. The submissive will not look into the eyes of the Dominant during punishment, unless requested.

3.3. Following punishments, the submissive will thank the Dominant for correcting his behavior.  The submissive will include in his journal entry what he learned and how he will avoid repeating the mistake or nonconformance in the future.

4. LIMITS

4.1. DOMINANT

4.1.1. HARD LIMITS:

 Sissification, Scat, Age play, Children, Animals, Lactation, Rape play, Diapers, Tickle Torture, Male Supremacy, Gorean, Race Play, Breeding.

4.2. SUBMISSIVE

4.2.1. HARD LIMITS:

  CBT, kissing men, male feet, homosexual activity without Mistress present, public humiliation (filmed or in/near submissive’s home town), scat, sleep deprivation, kids, animals, blood, sadists, ANYTHING that could negatively impact career, consistent feminization, anything with health implications, body modification (ball stretching, ridiculous sized dildos, tattoos, etc.), shaving body hair that is not beneath underwear (arms, knees, chest), restroom restrictions.

5. GOALS

5.1. DOMINANT

5.1.1. To maintain open and honest communication.

5.1.2. To provide the submissive with any and all reference material he needs to fulfill his goals as a submissive.

5.1.3. To create an open and comfortable environment where the submissive feels safe and has the opportunity to ask questions without judgement.

5.1.4. To aid the submissive in creating a positive self-image.

5.2. SUBMISSIVE

5.2.1. To strive to overcome feelings of guilt or shame, and all inhibitions that interfere with the submissive’s ability to serve the Dominant, and limit the submissive’s growth as a submissive.

5.2.2. To maintain open and honest communication. To reveal his thoughts, feelings, and desires without hesitation or embarrassment.

5.2.3. To strive towards maintenance of a positive self-image and development of realistic goals.

5.2.4. To work with the Dominant to become a happy and self-fulfilled individual.

5.2.5. To work against any negative aspects of his ego and insecurities that would interfere with advancement of these goals.

5.2.6. To ensure his submission to the Dominant is adequate to fulfill Her needs.

6. CONCLUSION

6.1. This agreement shall serve as the basis for an extension of our relationship, committed to in the spirit of loving and consensual Dominance and submission with the intent of furthering self-awareness and exploration, promoting health and happiness, and improving both our lives.

6.2. We both understand that cancellation of this contract means a cessation of the control stated and implied within this agreement. Upon cancellation, each of us agrees to offer the other his or Her reasons, and to assess our new needs and situation openly and lovingly. I, Bill Smock, with a free mind and an open heart, do request of Amanda Butler,  that She accepts the submission of my will unto Her and to take me into Her care and guidance, which we may grow together in love, trust and mutual respect. The satisfaction of Her wants, desires, and whims are consistent with my desire as a submissive to be found pleasing to Her.

To that end, I offer her use of my time, talents, and abilities. Further, I ask, in sincere humility, that, as my Domme, She accept the keeping of my body for the fulfillment and enhancement of our sexual, spiritual, emotional, and intellectual needs. To achieve this, She may have unfettered use of me any time, any place, in front of anyone, as She will determine. I request of Miss Manda, as my Domme, that She use the power vested in Her role, to mold and shape me, assisting me to grow in strength, character, confidence, and being, and that She continue to help me to develop my artistic and intellectual abilities, and my abilities to serve Her. This i, bill, do entreat, with lucidity and the realization of what this means, both stated and implied, in the conviction that this offer will be understood in the spirit of faith, caring, esteem and devotion in which it is given.

 SIGNED

   /  5-30-2015

________________________________________________________________________________

The submissive /Date

  / 5.30.2015

________________________________________________________________________________

The Dominant /Date

I am here

I will come to you in the silence
I will lift you from all your fear
you will hear My voice
I claim you as My choice
Be still, and know I am here

I am hope for when you are hopeless
I am eyes for when your worth you cannot see
In the shadows of the night,
I will be your light
Come and rest in Me

Do not be afraid, I am with you
I have called you by name
Come and follow Me
I will bring you home
I love you and you are Mine

I am strength for when you are despairing
Healing for the those times you dwell in shame
All the blind will see, the lame will all run free
And you will know My will


I am the path that will lead you to freedom
I am the peace the world, to you, cannot give
I will call your name, embracing all your pain
Stand up, now, walk, and live in purpose.

Second Guessing

Warning: This blog post will be chaotic and unorganized.

There's only one thing in this life that sets My tail feathers on fire.... to be made to second guess Myself.  

I don't mind constructive criticism.  We all grow from that.  Alright, well of course I mind it, I am a bit prideful... but I can take it and work with it just fine.   Those who don't know Me or who don't approve of My methods and styles I simply don't care about their opinion enough that it would even give Me pause to doubt.  

When, however, I'm told that I don't do enough to remind someone of their place in My life... when I'm truly being called 'too soft' My tail feathers surely do burn My skin and I begin to question....

I have said a thousand times I do things differently than most.  I'm strict and stern yet loving and fun.... I can play a game of uno with you and still maintain control... I don't live the Pro-Domme life nor do I reside in a porno.   If you want Divine Bitches... I can give you the site address. 

I'm sensual, romantic, caring, thoughtful, and I enjoy to see My slave happy and content... why?  Because when My slave is happy and content they are more apt to enjoy serving and want to do it more....I don't want someone to serve Me because they fear Me... though I do expect a level of respectful fear to indeed be there. 

During scenes, playtimes, etc... I will not hesitate to be a bitch.  I will push when I know it's safe to push... and I've learned in life that when someone 'says' they are ready and when they are truly ready are two entirely different times.   But during the day to day, the mundane... I expect that the rules, extensive rules I might add, the schedule, the control, and the power exchange are what remind one of their place... not Me being a bitch or unloving.

Today however... I question that.  Perhaps I am too soft.  Perhaps I love too much.  My personality, My way of life... maybe they aren't cut out for this?  Maybe that's the answer to the question all along.  No one stays because I'm not cutthroat enough.... 

Treating people like they are valuable treasures seems to get Me nothing more than them feeling like kinky friends.... I guess it's time to reevaluate what I want... who I am... and why I'm here. 

Conditioning

What is Conditioning?

Conditioning is a process of behavior modification by which a subject comes to associate a desired behavior with a previously unrelated stimulus. It's doing things to encourage behaviors you want and discouraging those you don't.


We do this to people around us every day in simple subtle ways.  A sigh, a specific facial expression, or a shift in tone can alter your partner's behavior even in a vanilla relationship.  Most people do this sub-consciously, so the idea of conditioning is to see what it is and begin to do it intentionally, purposefully. If used effectively you can fully change the way a person acts not just when they are with you but all the time. 

By the time a person reaches adulthood most people have developed their own style of responding to life's challenges.  They've also acquired quite a number of individual attitudes and beliefs.  Everyone responds differently so that there are no two identical personalities.  

The reason for these differences are moth due to nature and nurture... nature refers to influences already determined through birth.  Things that present themselves as a habitat that surround a person.  The nurture element includes 'conditioning' by those who aid in the persons growth through their life. 

There are two types of conditioning.... let's look at them now.

Classical Conditioning 

Even if you've not taken any psychology courses I'm sure you've most likely at least heard about Pavlov's dogs.  In his famous experiment he noticed dogs began to salivate in response to a tone after the sound had been repeatedly paired with the presentation of food.   He quickly realized that this was a learned response and began studying the conditioning process.  Classical conditioning involves pairing a previously neutral stimulus (sound of a bell) with that of an unconditioned stimulus (taste of food).  This unconditioned stimulus naturally and automatically triggers salivating as a response to the food. 

After associating this neutral stimulus and the unconditioned stimulus the unconditioned can be removed yet the intended behavior modification still exists becoming a conditioned response.( ie remove the meat and the dog still salivates when the bell is rung.)

Operant conditioning

Operant conditioning's focus is on increasing or decreasing a behavior using either reinforcement or punishment.  Through this process an association is formed between the behavior and the consequences for that behavor.  For example, say I want to teach slave to bring in the newspaper every morning.  When he does this successfully he receives praise and a reward such as a pat on the cheek or kiss. When he fails to retreive the paper praise is withheld.  Eventually slave forms an association between his behavior of getting the paper and receiving the desired reward.  

A simple way to remember the difference in classical and operant conditioning is to focus on whether the behavir is involuntary or voluntary.  Classical conditioning involves making an association between an involuntary response and a stimulus.  Operant conditioning is about making an association between an involuntary behavior and a consequence. 
Operant conditioning is rewarded with incentives while classical doesn't involve such enticements.  Also, classical conditioning is passive on the part of the learner while operant conditioning requires the learner to actively participate and perform some time of action in order to be rewarded or punished.

Now, as a Mistress I take this knowledge of psychology and learning theory to apply it in the context of the M/s.  But be forewarned that negotiating and receiving consent is absolutely necessary.  Meddling with a person's personality is possibly the most extreme form of power exchange and in ethical BDSM practices we always get consent first... Always.


On a side note I want to say that conditioning is not at all brainwashing.  Brainwashing is a whole different system.  It may include conditioning as part of it's process but it also includes mind altering psychotropic chemicals, electroshock therapies, hypno-therapies, etc....The end result is a person who will do anything including self destruction upon the orders of another.  

   

My Toes

    It happened as he was massaging My feet... I was lazily swinging My right foot in the air, curling My toes as his fingers worked through every knot, kink, and tension in My left.  The long awaited attention My feet desired was bringing Me to the precipice of heaven.  Without tearing My mind away from the bliss I calculated what to do next. Slowly bringing My right toes to touch his cheek and chin, a tease meant to reward him for bringing Me such pleasure.  A reward it was too, I felt instantly his grip tighten ever so slightly as his breath caught in his chest but for a moment.  How I can feel his body's reaction when I'm so enjoying My own is already indicative of how strong this bond will be... a vision into how amazing it will be.  

    The grin that spread across My face was hidden purposely.  After all, I couldn't let this slave see how My mind was working.. I couldn't let him anticipate My next move.  Lazily swinging My right foot back out and in again, this time with much more purpose as I drew it to the corner of his lips.  Being smooth mind you, isn't the easiest of tasks when one cannot see what they are doing, but I wasn't about to let that stop Me....just as I'd hoped, his mouth instinctively parted and without any verbal command necessary he lay My left foot down gently to take My right and begin to suck on My toes.  

    I wasn't sure I'd even truly enjoy it, but I wanted to see, trying new things is adventurous and fun.  The moment though, that his tongue slipped around My big toe, pulling it gently to his mouth was a rapturous experience I'd not at all expected.  The warmth and softness of his tongue slipping around My toes as his lips closed around them sent euphoric waves of desire to every recess of My mind and body.  Flooded with endorphins I was pushed from that precipice into the depths of the heavens.  Every hair was on end, every nerve pricked with pleasure, every cell completely immersed in ecstasy.

Sitting here now, the flood rushes back at simply the remembrance of that heaven.  A new treasure to enjoy, a new kink revealed, My toes will never be the same again....I now desire them to be sucked as well as worshiped, often and well.

The Desert and the Snowflake

Words...

A word, a single word, can mean nothing or everything.  Just one word can be plucked from the sea and placed on a white sheet of paper and that one word can be looked at, pondered, and contemplated for a hundred lifetimes.  

A string of words can have the power to raise nations or destroy a life.

I've been told I have a way with words, a way that is both entertaining and fluid... but as I sit here wanting to write what is in My heart today no words come.

Well, they come, they come in droves but as I begin to put them down they seem so insignificant, so void of the emotion I wish for them to hold.  

Can you put words to these dreams, hopes, feelings, and joy?  Is it truly possible?  Or is there a point where words simply don't work anymore?

I don't know that I can answer that.... I've been left speechless.  What comes to mind though I would like to try to convey... My hope is that you see, through this, what you mean to Me.


The shimmering midday heat found her standing on the edge of a crescent dune.  To the east, a sleek slope with nearly glassy crystals of sand glimmering amid the golden grains to the ground.  The west, rippled with waves as the seashore would when the tides rolled in.  

Looking just ahead to the large desert rock that jutted from the earth like a mountain among the plains.  She knew it wasn't but just large enough to get her body into a bit of shade but in that moment to her it was as a castle.  She had only a few hundred feet and she would be there.   She began again to walk slowly. determined.

Her last drop of tepid water had been sipped what seemed to be eons past.  Her skin flaked like old bark from the Maple tree in her backyard at home.   Her lips now swollen, dry, and cracked resembled the scorching sands beneath her feet.  As she lifted her fingers to touch them she found herself wondering if she would be lost out here forever... if she would perish in this desert wasteland after all.

She'd been sure this was the most efficient way to get to her promise land.  She knew it would be an expedition of great challenges and insurmountable difficulties but she believed the journey would be worth it when she had reached her paradise. The hours turned to days and they seemed to be spend between dunes where her footsteps left no trace.  Where she had come from mirrored where she was going and every dune looked much the same.

With every slow and deliberate step it appeared she was further away from that rock she'd been seeing for the longest while.  Suddenly she thought to herself about the mirages she'd been warned about... was this little respite nothing more than her mind tricking her into spurring on?  Could she trust herself any longer?  Did it matter anymore, she had to go somewhere.... anywhere... Her eternal happiness, she knew,  was just beyond this forsaken inferno so she pressed on.

Praying, to whoever or whatever would listen, she asked a simple request.... 'please give Me respite even for a brief moment.  Please let it rain even but a second.'.   Yet the silence seemed to mock any hope she had.... but then....

Then after days and days of wandering the desert she felt something?  Was it real, was that what she'd prayed for?  Rain without a cloud in sight?   It was but one single drop to her skin, a feeling of glorious life among the death about her.  

Shielding her eyes from the sun she looked up and out over the expanse of the skies but what she saw she could not believe, not for a moment.  A single delicate white snowflake fluttered down just above her nose.  Blinking her eyes in disbelief she tried to focus but the more she tried the harder it was to see.  Another drop against her shoulder and another running down her arm; it was raining, it really was but she couldn't look away from this apparition in front of her.  She dared not reach out for it or move at all, lest it disappear along with the rain it seemed to bring.  So she stood, still, nearly lifeless, waiting for some spark of intelligence to direct her in what to do.

As if the snowflake read her thoughts and understood it inched forward pressing in toward her lips. She still didn't move, watching and knowing somehow that this unique little piece of frozen water, clearly out of it's element, was here just for her.   She painfully parted her lips as the tip of her tongue slid from behind them.   The white fluff of the snowflake caught the suns rays and shown like a diamond for but a second before landing on that tongue awaiting it so eagerly.   

Closing her eyes as she drew back her tongue she thanked the snowflake silently for bringing her salvation.... then, the heavens opened and the rains filled the desert as she danced and laughed.