Lions and Tigers and Bears.. Oh My.

        There are three basic types of submission in the BDSM world.  Submissive, slave, and pet.  The three have clear and distinct definitions.  Although I believe everyone's own brand of BDSM is slightly different and there aren't two relationships the same, some terms are good to know just for communication purposes with the rest of the community.  These three terms are part of those.  If you openly say you're a slave when in reality you're a submissive or if you tell others you're looking for a pet when what you want is a slave.... confusion will set in and thus begins the downfall.  Communication is the enemy of confusion, and with a little knowledge to aid in the communication...it's demise.  

So let's define them today shall we?  Yes we shall, because I want to and well,

 I get what I want!!

        Submissive:   A submissive takes the passive, receiving, or obedient role in a relationship.  They give up surrender of their control for a set period of time but they still have their own decisions and are able to make them.  There is a power balance in the Dominant/submissive relationship.  Even though the submissive is surrendering control there is still an equal amount of control between the two.  Only the circumstances are a little more intense and in a different setting. The Dom may have ultimate authority but the sub is the one who initiates most actions.  Sex is typically a large part in this relationship and is generally where the submission comes into play.  


      Slave:  A slave surrenders control completely. There is no power balance as the power is tipped in the dominants direction entirely.  (As a side-note I must add here that I'm talking about consensual slavery... so the slave has given up their rights and control willingly.  Nothing has been taken without their consent)  A slave is typically 24/7.  From the day they sign a contract or agree to it they are controlled there is no flipping the switch and turning it off.  Yes, it's possible to be a 24/7 even when working outside or away from a dominant.   Sex isn't the main goal of the slave nor the dominant who owns them.


       Pet:   A pet is much like a slave with one exception... sex doesn't have to be involved and most of the time it's not.  The pleasure is in the giving of control and obeying not from sexual play. This is dangerous because one can lose themselves mentally because they so rarely have thoughts of their own, they usually do not work and although they may discuss things with their dominant their dominant has the last say in all things.

     I find that deeper someone goes into submission the stronger they have to be which of course is quite ironic since they are giving up more and more of their own control to their dominant at each stage. Taking each step is serious and should never be taken light by the dominant nor the submissive, especially  to remain safe, sane, and consensual. 

    Lions, tigers, and bears... Oh My.  Lions, tigers, and bears... Oh My.  Submissives, slaves, and pets... Oh My.   Submissives, slaves, and pets... Oh My.  


Well damn, now My imagination is rolling. I want a yellow brick road, a wizard, and some red ruby slippers.... I need a scarecrow and tin-man.... I already have My lion and am so very very pleased with him.  Ahh let the the imagery for the day play away...