This is a copy of the contract I had written up to be signed last Saturday.... Before I delete it I thought I'd post it for you all to see. It shows a bit of what I had been looking for in a sub (male and female). While I am a complete goofball I take leading someone in a D/s very serious. I know many don't use contracts but I like them. It's a good way to re-evaluate and asses the relationship every few months... to make sure you're both going in the direction you want to be. Introspection is always good!! I hope you enjoy :)
AGREEMENT
Upon signing, this is a
binding contract between the Dominant and the submissive.
1. TERMS
1.1. CONTRACT
1.1.1. This contract will
be in effect for 3 months, unless other terms are agreed upon later.
1.1.2. This contract can
be extended at any time, with consent from both parties.
1.1.3. Alterations can be
made to this contract, in respect to the terms set forth in SUBSECTION 1.4 and
SECTION 2.
1.1.4. The parties enter into this contract on
the signed date, fully aware of its nature, and undertake to abide by its
conditions, without exception.
1.2. SAFETY
1.2.1. The Dominant and
submissive agree that anything discussed, or acted upon; in regards to this
contract will be consensual and confidential.
1.2.2. The list of hard
and soft limits (SECTION 3) will be strictly adhered to, unless otherwise
discussed.
1.2.3. If needed, the
following Safewords should be used:
1.2.3.1. RED: This word is
to be used when the submissive is beyond his level of endurance, and wants to
stop everything immediately.
1.2.3.2. YELLOW: This word
is to be used when the submissive is close to his limit of endurance, but does
not want to cease all activity.
1.2.4. The submissive will
not be punished, in any way, for using the Safewords.
1.3. AVAILABILITY
1.3.1. The submissive will
make himself available to the Dominant at all times.
1.3.2. The submissive must
ask permission to do anything that might infarct on the time of the Dominant.
1.3.3. The Dominant will
respect the work, sleep hours, workout hours, and important family obligations
of the submissive.
1.3.4. The Dominant may
release the submissive from Her service at any time. The submissive may request
his release at any time, and the request will be granted at the discretion of
the Dominant.
1.3.5. The terms of this
contract are in effect whether we are at home or in public.
1.4. COMMUNICATION
1.4.1. When the submissive
is talking to the Dominant, he must remember his role. 1.4.2. If the submissive
needs to express his feelings in a way that is not within his role, or would
like to discuss terms related to the contract, he will do so via email.
1.4.3. The submissive will strive to write a journal each
day, whether mundane or extraordinary. The lack of a journal entry should be
explained to the Dominant within the following day, and She will decide on the
validity of the reason and if there will be discipline or additional tasks as a
result. Journal entries should include things he wants to work on regarding his
submissive duties, things he is thankful for, and his current feelings in
regards to his servitude and his Dominant.
2. ROLES/RIGHTS
2.1. DOMINANT
2.1.1. EXPECTATIONS
2.1.1.1. The Dominant will never request the submissive
to participate in activities that are deemed dangerous, or that are mentioned
in SECTION 3.
2.1.1.2. The Dominant will provide a safe environment for
the submissive.
2.1.1.3. The Dominant is to provide the submissive with
all necessary training, guidance, and materials to properly serve the Dominant.
The reason behind training will be explained to the submissive unless the
Dominant has reasons to not do so.
2.1.1.4. Unless previously discussed, no permanent marks
will be left on the submissive during punishment, and there will be no injuries
that require medical attention.
2.1.1.5. The Dominant will maintain Her own health and
hygiene, in an acceptable manner.
2.1.1.6. The Dominant will not loan Her submissive to
another Dominant.
2.1.2. RIGHTS
2.1.2.1. The Dominant accepts the submissive as Her own,
to control, dominate, train, discipline, and correct during the term stated in
1.1.
2.1.2.2. The Dominant has the right to use the
submissive’s body at any time, in any matter She sees fit, sexually or
otherwise.
2.1.2.3. The Dominant may discipline or correct the
submissive at any time, to ensure that the submissive fully appreciates his
role of subservience, and to discourage unacceptable conduct. The Dominant
shall explain the reason for discipline and offer the submissive the
opportunity to ask clarifying questions before the discipline/correction is
administered
2.2. SUBMISSIVE
2.2.1. EXPECTATIONS
2.2.1.1. The submissive accepts the Dominant as his
master, with the understanding that he is now property of the Dominant. He will
remember his role in regard to the Dominant at all times.
2.2.1.2. The submissive shall obey the rules set forth in
this contract.
2.2.1.3. The submissive shall serve the Dominant in any
way, and shall endeavor to please the Dominant at all times, to the best of his
ability.
2.2.1.4. The submissive is to obey the Dominant in all
things. Subject to the terms and limitations in this contract, the submissive
shall offer the Dominant any pleasures She requires, and will accept Her
training and guidance in whatever form it may take. 2.2.1.5. The submissive
will conduct himself in a respectful and modest manner. 2.2.1.6. The submissive
will not enter into any sexual relations with anyone other than the Dominant.
2.2.1.7. The submissive shall be held accountable for any
wrongdoings when not in the presence of the Dominant.
2.2.1.8. The submissive will not act or speak in a
demeaning way to the Dominant, Her husband,or Her children.
2.2.1.9. GENERAL
2.2.1.9.1. The submissive will not touch the Dominant in
a sexual manner without asking for permission.
2.2.1.9.2. The submissive will meditate for 10 minutes
every day in the specific manner that pleases the Dominant.
2.2.1.10. SLEEP
2.2.1.10.1. The submissive will make every effort to get
a decent amount of sleep, being in bed in a timely manner. The submissive will
work out on a regular basis following the Dominant’s recommendations or
direction.
2.2.1.10.2.The submissive will make every effort possible
to be easy to wake up, and not be rude when he does.
2.2.1.10.3.The submissive will snuggle the Dominant every
night, play with Her hair, and massage Her as She sees fit.
2.2.1.11. DIET
2.2.1.11.1. The submissive is not allowed to drink
alcohol in excess of one drink per day, or use any substance, without first
acquiring permission from the Dominant. When in the presence of the Dominant
the submissive must first acquire permission before having any drink.
2.2.1.12. CLOTHING
2.2.1.12.1. Each day, the submissive will choose his
clothing and get them approved by the Dominant. He will photo what he plans on
wearing both at bedtime and in the morning to get it approved. If the Dominant
doesn’t reply within 5 minutes it’s to be assumed approved.
2.2.1.13. HYGIENE/BEAUTY
2.2.1.13.1. The submissive must shower at least every
day.
2.2.1.13.2. The submissive must keep the hair on his
genital regions trimmed neatly. 2.2.1.13.3. The submissive will request
permission before drastically altering his facial hair.
2.2.1.13.4. The submissive will not drastically alter his
appearance in any way (hair cuts, tattoos, etc.) without permission from the
Dominant.
2.2.1.14. HEALTH
2.2.1.14.1. The submissive shall maintain his good
health, shall seek medical attention when needed, and keep the Dominant
informed of any health issues (mental or physical) that may arise.
2.2.1.15. HOUSEHOLD
2.2.1.15.1.The submissive will keep his home presentable
and ready for the Dominant as if She were living with him.
2.2.1.15.1. The submissive will paint the Dominant's
toenails, at request.
2.2.1.15.2. The submissive will make dinner for the
Dominant and whomever else She desires at any time, and prepare the menu She
desires
2.2.1.15.3. The Dominant shall have privileges to stay at
the submissives house at any time for any duration unless that time has
previously been designated unavailable, at which time the Dominant may request
explanation.
2.2.1.16. SEX
2.2.1.16.1. The submissive shall not pleasure himself sexually,
without asking permission from the Dominant. If the submissive does not receive
a response from the Dominant within 10 minutes of a request, permission is
assumed not granted. His cock, balls, ass, and nipples are her toys and he must
not touch them sexually without direct permission.
3. PUNISHMENT
3.1. The submissive shall accept floggings, spankings,
paddling, or any other discipline administered, without hesitation, inquiry, or
complaint.
3.2. The Dominant may restrain the submissive at any time,
for any reason, and any length of time, if in accordance with sections 1.2 and
4..
3.3. The submissive will not look into the eyes of the
Dominant during punishment, unless requested.
4. LIMITS
4.1. DOMINANT
4.1.1. HARD LIMITS: Sissification, Scat, Age play,
Children, Animals, Lactation, Rape play, Diapers, Tickle Torture, Male
Supremacy, Gorean, Race Play, Breeding.
4.1.2. SOFT LIMITS: There are no soft limits to list.
4.2. SUBMISSIVE
4.2.1. HARD LIMITS: Public humiliation, knife play, fire
play, needle play, scat play, exposure of my submissiveness in public unless
previously agreed upon, animals, kids, permanent or semi-permanent marks,
intentional infliction of significant pain…
4.2.2. SOFT LIMITS: CBT, electrical play, sexual
activities with another male, golden showers
5. GOALS
5.1. DOMINANT
5.1.1. To maintain open and honest communication.
5.1.2. To provide the submissive with any and all tools
and reference material he needs to fulfill his goals as a submissive.
5.1.3. To create an open and comfortable environment
where the submissive feels safe and has the opportunity to ask questions
without judgement.
5.1.4. To aid the submissive in creating a positive
self-image.
5.2. SUBMISSIVE
5.2.1. To strive to overcome feelings of guilt or shame,
and all inhibitions that interfere with the submissive’s ability to serve the
Dominant, and limit the submissive’s growth as a submissive.
5.2.2. To maintain open and honest communication, and
reveal my thoughts, feelings, and desires without hesitation or embarrassment.
5.2.3. To strive towards maintenance of a positive
self-image and development of realistic goals.
5.2.4. To work with the Dominant to become a happy and
self-fulfilled individual.
5.2.5. To work against any negative aspects of my ego and
my insecurities that would interfere with advancement of these goals.
6. CONCLUSION
6.1. This agreement shall serve as the basis for an
extension of our relationship, committed to in the spirit of loving and
consensual Dominance and submission with the intent of furthering
self-awareness and exploration, promoting health and happiness, and improving
both our lives.
6.2. We both understand that cancellation of this
contract means a cessation of the control stated and implied within this
agreement. Upon cancellation, each of us agrees to offer the other his or Her
reasons, and to assess our new needs and situation openly and lovingly. I,
________________________, with a free mind and an open heart, do request
of_______________________ that She accepts the submission of my will unto Her
and to take me into Her care and guidance, which we may grow together in love,
trust and mutual respect. The satisfaction of Her wants, desires, and whims are
consistent with my desire as a submissive to be found pleasing to Her.
To that end, I offer her use of my time, talents, and
abilities. Further, I ask, in sincere humility, that, as my Domme, She accept
the keeping of my body for the fulfillment and enhancement of our sexual,
spiritual, emotional, and intellectual needs. To achieve this, She may have
unfettered use of me any time, any place, in front of anyone, as She will
determine. I request of _______________________, as my Domme, that She use the
power vested in Her role, to mold and shape me, assisting me to grow in
strength, character, confidence, and being, and that She continue to help me to
develop my artistic and intellectual abilities, and my abilities to serve Her.
This I, _______________________, do entreat, with lucidity and the realization
of what this means, both stated and implied, in the conviction that this offer
will be understood in the spirit of faith, caring, esteem and devotion in which
it is given.
SIGNED
________________________________________________________________________________
The submissive /Date
________________________________________________________________________________
The Dominant /Date
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