What IS Sensual Domination
Some would say it is bullshit and fluff not at all BDSM. ROFLMAO I stopped caring what those people said long ago...well...the first time one of them opened their mouth to Me. I am a Dominant Woman. I just don't feel the need to beat the crap out of people that I care about.
First, lets talk about what it IS. It is Control: complete and utter control. I tell you what to wear, when to get up, when to exercise, how to take care of yourself, what to eat, what not to eat, and I control every aspect of our sexual relationship (when, if, how, how long, where and most importantly, when and if you get to release.)
The day I collar and sign a contract with you, I take Ownership of you. I would hope that by now you all realize that you each are intelligent and well-educated. I would have you no other way. I'm proud that the three of you are strong individuals in your own right. Simply because you choose to surrender your will to Me does not make you weak... I've heard before that one is strongest on their knees (in regards to church and God)... so it can also be said of one who surrenders their own will to another.
Will I spank you? Yes, if you need it, if I'm feeling particularly frisky or simply because I want to. I might flog you with a gorgeous flogger, that makes a lot of noise, but does not have much bite. I WILL bite...because I will enjoy the noises you make when I do... (shudders with pleasure)- We might play with hot wax, ice and a riding crop. By saying We...I mean I will use these things on you.
Will I tie you up? Yes. I will tie your wrists with black silky fabric. If you wanted to get loose, you could, because it stretches. Tying you will be fun, adds an extra level of control and We both would enjoy it.
If I try something and it HURTS... I would stop (minimal pain is pleasure, but I'm talking HURT here). That is the difference, I will not hurt you other than in small very controlled ways.
If this is sounding a lot like the BDSM that you know... hold on to your hat.
Do I dress in leather? UM...NO. Leather is not comfortable to Me. I might wear a tank top and yoga pants, or just panties. I do own a GORGEOUS pair of black leather boots. They are sexy as hell...and hurt like it too! LOL Seriously, they hurt if I wear them for more than an hour or so and I hate to be uncomfortable. I don't need to look the part of the 'boxed Domme' to be a Domme.
Is everything black and leathery? HAHAHA nope! I am far too sensual for that! ALL of My toys are PRETTY... flogger, crop, strap on, bondage tape, vibes everything is PRETTY! Some are sparkly, some are soft, some are purple or pink...everything is PRETTY. Its just Me. I like pretty. And whatever I can find in TEAL..... is a must have.
Will I degrade you? That depends of it's something that turns you on... a Mistress not only gets served by her slave but as well, She sees that her slave's own needs are met....however in saying that my first priority is to love and value you; to make you feel like My treasure. you are worthy, wise and wonderful.
Will I ever make you bleed? HELLLLLL NOOO!
When I spank or bind you, am I brutal? NEVER! I will not spank you for extended periods of time, will not bind you into painful positions and leave you there, and I do not intend to mark your lovely flesh. Alright, I have to be honest... sometimes the bites will leave marks...but again that is because of the LOVELY noises you will make-- clearly not My fault! :P
Will I slap you across the face? Never.
Trample you? Nope
Kick or punch? nu-uh
pull your hair? Um... well alright.. this is a possibility.... I love to pull hair, but not to the detriment of your lovely scalp.
Most importantly...I will LOVE, ADORE and TREASURE you. I will stroke your skin, kiss you passionately and gently. I will rub your head. We will laugh, A LOT. We will kiss, cuddle, snuggle, you can even paint My toenails. It will be a LOVING relationship. I will encourage, uplift, guide, strengthen, shelter, comfort, stretch, challenge, and support you in being all that you can be.
It is not the type of relationship everyone in the kink community wants. I have had those under Me who thought that I was not HARD enough for them. Although I am strict I am not HARD. But these were people who craved brutality...one had a former Mistress who stapled his scrotum to a board. -WINCES- Yeah that is NEVER gonna happen with ME.
Its not for everyone... but I am finding I'm not alone in this and I'm loving it!!
5 comments:
Thank you Mistress, for Your beautiful description. Your sweet is very happy to see that his expectations and desires already align with Mistress in this area. Thank you for taking the time to provide this fairly descriptive explanation for Your darlings.
Yes, thank You Mistress not only for the detailed definition of the bonds that will hold us all to You, but also for the implicit sincerity of the love and respect You give us as Your devoted slaves. We all belong to a niche of BDSM where we expose our most vital organs everyday - our hearts and our minds. Pay no mind to the silly masochists that get a bruise or two that will heal with a nice warm epsom salt bath. We risk something far greater, for rewards that will far longer than anything experienced in one "scene".
Thank You for letting me in on this journey. It sounds like i have some wonderful companions - i'm truly honored and excited.
Thank You Mistress for the time You took to give this lovely explanation and for the thought You have put into it. i do have to say it made me giggle and shiver a few times. And since You know me so well, i am sure You know which parts. ~Giggles~ paul, i do agree with your comment and if i may say, it was very well written.
Yes paul, let me agree with brenda about your comments. i just had the chance to read them. and nice "giggles" brenda. mine was more a weakness in my knees, but i did chuckle a little at your giggles :)
brenda and jonathan (i hope i'm spelling that right) - thank you for the warm compliments. i firmly believe we are blessed and chosen to be together with Mistress for a reason, and thereby are also connected in a special way. i'm looking forward to learning more about you through Mistress and directly as well. But just for the record, i'm "challenged" as it is with keeping up on blogs, texts, emails, etc - but you are both on the radar just under Mistress, of coarse! ;)
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