Submissive vs. Slave

Submissive vs. Slave

There are many distinct differences between a slave and submissive.... today we will discuss those differences and asses where you are.  

Let's begin with a submissive.  
A submissive is a person with an insatiable desire to serve, that servitude is done under very specific conditions. The conditions would typically include terms of service, length of service, which areas' the dominant does NOT have control over, what the hard and soft limits are as they play or just in normal interactions, and of course a safe word.  In many ways the submissive controls play.  
Hard limits are not given for the dominant to indulge in with that submissive and if a hard limit is broken it would lead to the end of a scene, the end of the relationship or arrangement, and a serious breach of trust.  Soft limits are limits that can be broken but only after openly discussed and agreed upon by the submissive.Typically things the submissive isn't excited about doing but will try if it seems to excite the dominant. In that situation the safeword ends all play.   The submissive can slip in and out of the role of a submissive in most cases.  They continue to make their own decisions and even in a 24/7 situation will continue to control those areas of their own lives that are off limits to the dominant.  A submissive submits every time a scene starts or some activity where the dominant has been given control commences.  The choice is the submissives every single time.  A submissive can walk away from a scene because something is not working for them and completely slip out of role whenever they feel the need to discuss something about the situation with their dominant.  This does not indicate a lack of the need to submit or serve rather it simply gives them control over the areas of life they don't want to share with their dominant. 


Now we turn to the slave 
(the consensual slave)
The slave gives up all rights to make their own decisions, becomes the "property" of a Master or Mistress, takes on the limits of their Master or Mistress and does what is asked of them regardless of their feelings about it. Sometimes a slave will give up all rights to property of their own and will continue to work for the household, having to ask permission to use any money they earn (obviously not in circumstances as ours of course... I don't need nor want your income). Slaves earn privileges and do not have rights. A slave submits once - when the collar is placed around his or her neck and when something is difficult, has to ask for help to accomplish it. Slaves are not kept in basements or locked away forever. They are strong people who have an intense desire to please another human being and now has the freedom to live that desire and not have to submit to anyone else but those chosen by their Master or Mistress. Taking on the limits of another means that slaves have to ensure that the limits of the dominant they are talking to matches theirs, as their only choice is choosing the dominant. It is responsible to make sure that the person does match them or their preferences.
Can a slave be sold to another? Hell to the  No, most Masters or Mistresses would never do that. I for one find it deplorable to even consider such nonsense.  My slaves are Mine..no one else could EVER love them as much, treat them as well, see to their needs as thoroughly, or guide and lead them as brilliantly as Myself -insert a touch of prideful chuckling with a sense of realism added to it-  Remember this is consensual slavery, a 24/7 arrangement with one person fully in control and another person obeying all the commands and wishes expressed by the other because both of them want this. There is often a lot of love involved in this type of relationship as well. Can a slave end a relationship? Yes, they can petition their dominant for release and no responsible dominant would say no if nothing could be done to heal the relationship.(but in earnest I'd hope this would never have to happen.... however, things happen, life changes, and people move on... I'm not without understanding).


The difference between the two does not make one better than the other. I have seen countless submissives that serve as beautifully and perfectly as some slaves do and prefer not to be called slaves because of the negative connotation to that word (which I Myself personally feel like telling them to grow a pair of balls, after all they ARE in BDSM which is taboo to begin with.. lol... but again I am not without understanding). I have also seen many wannabe slaves struggle until they eventually found their place as submissives.

 It is difficult to devote one's entire life to another person but it is also incredibly rewarding.